Some days are just hard. There is no other way to frame it. Mentally. Physically. Spiritually.
Recently in my life, the notion of success has come up over and over again. Quite a bit. There is an axiom within our cultural lexicon that time and time again brings us back to the notion that success seemingly pushes us away from "ourselves". That it forces you to become many things; anything but your true self.
Sometimes I wonder what the world would be like if we did two things differently. If in the face of adversity, against the tugging will of our lizard brain, we looked around for someone less fortunate than ourselves and helped them. x If in the face of success and prosperity we helped ourselves.
There was a moment in history, we as people looked up for the very first time [at the stars] and never would it be the same. We brought our own relevance and capabilities into question with a majesty that, to this day, maintains an unrelenting hold on our lives. As sophisticated as we may feel we have become, as progressive as we may imagine we are, rest assured most of us find ourselves petrified by the thought of failure.
It has been an interesting social experiment functioning in the new paradigm of "stay at home" orders and "social distancing". For the longest time, I was having difficulty honing in on what exactly felt so "off" about the new paradigm. But in recent days, it has become a bit more clear.
I am not a positive person, never have been. But I have always been an optimist, because I have always thought - the alternatives are simply uninteresting.
It is quite telling and interesting to think that solitary confinement, which is to say - alone within your own head, is considered a form of punishment EVEN inside of a prison. Culturally, the prospect of being of being locked alone in a room, with their own minds, is a devastating one. Why is that?
There's not much to sugarcoat right now. We are in the midst of a pandemic unlike anything we've ever experienced in recent memory. People are losing their jobs. People are losing their businesses. And the worst of it is, people are losing their lives. But there are two dynamics of every crisis we should all be aware of. One that relates to the safety of our society and loved ones; the actual dangers and precautions to be mindful of in a crisis. And one that relates to the 'over-reaction' or better put mis-reaction we can take in the midst of the fear and uncertainty of a very challenging situation. This note is about addressing what to do in the midst of the latter.
Next time you are face to face with hardship. Ask it a question: What face are you showing me today.